I would like a partner not an opponent.
you must allow others to make their choice and allow their consequence.
your anger is not mine to fix.
To want the best for others is to push your agenda onto them. This results in misunderstanding and conflict. You may not understand their choice but you have to accept it. You cannot want more for someone than they want for themselves.
If you are wanting someone to change, you have just disempowered you and put yourself in the victim role.
The hope of how you would like things to change keeps you in a situation that will never change.
‘It is what it is’ sounds very trite yet very true. We have a very difficult time accepting people and situations as they are. We waste a lot of time and effort wishing and wanting people and things to be different than how they are. We beat out heads against the brick wall hoping things will be different. Accepting life on life terms frees us up to come up with creative solutions. We are no longer held hostage by our fantasies. We are engaged in life in order to make changes